Dating your wife
Please note, I would say those things to myself and rarely to Jason.I (Jason) was busy trying to figure out how to financially support my new family so dating my wife wasn’t something I ever thought about. As our kids got older we had more time to be together.
Erin and I only dated for three months before marrying. Actually, we had only known each other for three months before marrying.
Making time for weekly (or even simply bi-monthly) “date nights” may seem like an added stressor when two people are already pressed for time, but allotting a meal, an activity or simply an hour for a couple to reconnect can have some seriously therapeutic effects, not just on the relationship, but on yourself.
As Lauren Conrad (who’s rarely wrong about things, I’m learning) said in an interview about her engagement to law school student William Tell, “It’s important to have that time as a couple to connect, relax and just enjoy each other’s company.”Read on for all the reasons why two people should keep dating long after they’re considered boyfriend-and-girlfriend, or even husband-and-wife.
So much of the irritability, stress, discontentment and frustration in your marriage possibly stems from the fact that you have stopped doing the very thing that brought you together in the first place. Do you remember how you felt, before marriage, when you were going on a date with your then boyfriend/girlfriend? Dating will rekindle that spark and remind of you why you fell for one another in the beginning.
Planning a date tells your spouse that they are still special to you.
Sure, we talked a lot about the vacations we wanted to take or all the places we wanted to eventually travel to but “dating” wasn’t on my radar. It was usually a call, a text or depending on your age, a page (yes, Erin had a pager when we first met). But at that point, we were in a serious rut of the occasional dinner together, maybe even a movie but our dates were still an afterthought and only happened when we had time. Because when we did go out, our conversations were reactive. Let’s face it, the romance was the original draw, right?